Relationships with your siblings

Do you have a brother? Or a sister? Or neither? Or both? How would you describe them? How would you describe your relationship with them? Would you mostly say positive or negative things about them? If you could share one experience you had with them would it be good or bad? Would it be funny or sad? These are questions you can ask yourself to test your relationship with your siblings. If you do not have a good or close relationship with them, there are several ways you can grow close to them. First, through trials and hardships you can become closer to them. Second, if they have lived or been away from you for a while, and third, if you try your very hardest to not fight with them. These reasons are often unwanted, but they help you grow closer to your siblings.

First, through trials and hardships you become closer to your siblings. For example: This year has been a hard year for my family’s physical health. During the summer I had back surgery. It was hard, but with the help of my friends and family, I got through it, and they took on my burdens. I thought the worst was over, but I must have “thought wrong”. My mom has bad shoulders, and both of her rotator cuffs are torn. Three months after my back surgery, she decided to get her surgery done with. Her surgery was almost harder for me than mine was. I was the “mom” of my family. Although I am the youngest, I still had many jobs I had to do. I had to continue with my responsibilities and in addition, add my mom’s responsibilities too. It was my job to clean the house. It was also my job to cook the meal (dinner) for my family. In addition to that, I had school, homework, and all my “extra-curricular” activities I had to worry about. In December, my dad had back surgery, and I have had to watch him go through a lot of pain and suffering, and I have had to do many things for him. Last year was physically, mentally, and emotionally draining for me. Although it was hard, my siblings have helped me through it, and we have grown closer together.

Second, if your siblings have lived or been away from you for a while, you grow closer to them. For example: My sister and her husband live in New York City (Manhattan, New York). My other sister, her husband, and her two kids lived in Southern California (Mission Viejo, California). My brother lives in Northern California (San Jose area). When I haven’t seen them for a long time, and then they all come to visit, it is more exciting than if we got to see each other often. Because my siblings live away, we have grown closer together.

Third, if you try your hardest to not fight with your siblings, you will become closer. Every time you want to say something bad to them, think before you speak. Don’t say what you want to and replace that rude thought about them with a good one. Try to understand their position and perspective, and if you can’t, ask them in a nice way. Talk to them, (do not yell or scream or slam doors in their face) Listen to them, and don’t fight with them.

In conclusion, if you go through trials and hardships with your siblings, if they have lived away, and you try your hardest not to fight with them, you will grow closer and develop a better relationship with your siblings.